Lonely November despite 400 FB friends
Although a boom has been seen in personal blogging, off late it has been seen that people often tend to drop back the idea into the cupboard and forget that they need to update their so called blogs. There are endless stories creeping out of one’s life that can be weaved into a blog post, but will you read what I had in breakfast today? No, not at all – only if it’s a dinosaur mashala!
In short, you are lonely despite having a blog, despite a 400 odd friend list in facebook and 1000 followers in twitter! In between all that, you drop multi zero cheques as your mobile bill and a mini-trip back home. But, that doesn’t help either! It only prolongs your loneliness!
News reports find that there is an upsurge in suicides during Christmas-New Year as loneliness turns into depression for those without friends or family to share the festive season with. It isn’t all about killing yourself out of frustration and not just a rage of split second. It’s a situation that curves in for months and maybe years. The social media doesn’t let you to socialize in reality and the “hip-hop” way of playing with literature (oh! It’s just English not literature at all) and commenting at your friends’ wall proves to be fatal.
If we look into suicide cases and the facebook account maintained by them, it can be seen that the victim mostly tries to voice out their loneliness, but – that’s an important but – they fail to get serious attention as the ‘friends’ in search of some ‘hip-hop’ lines make fun of the incident with loads of smileys 
being the common ones!
In short, the social media lets you feel disgusted and does the most anti-social act for you, and your ‘social friends’ let you down ultimately.
Some time back, feeling lonely was associated with retired people who miss their hey-days and feels the absence of friends. But now, the virtual world and the necessity to move places in search of work has led the younger generation gripped into loneliness. The emerging numbers of video games, personal gadgets make things worse. The absence of interaction with family members and personalized talks with the office chaps is a major cause of depression and sense of isolation. “Who moved those files? Can you re-do that work?” can definitely include the question, “Why are you upset today, you fine?” – It rather should.
When I was in Class IV, I got to read Robinson Crusoe. I loved the way he lived, all alone in an island and even wished myself to be likewise! That feeling sucks now!
A nice observation by the Times of India Crest, and the sentence says, “Had video games not been invented, who knows, a growing bunch of addicts may not have deserted Planet Earth, a Chinese man wouldn’t have fatally collapsed during a weeklong spree and a Korean couple wouldn’t have nurtured a virtual child while starving to death their real baby….” That’s a modern virtual life!
Till someone realize, it’s yet again; Lonely November despite 400 Facebook friends!
13 Comments
Nov 21, 20101:18 pm
i like your thoughts loneliness……….you are absolutely true
Nov 25, 20102:34 pm
This sounds odd. I understand you because I’ve gone through this already many times. Everytime I’m alone and lonely, I feel so sad and suddenly many questions come rushing on my mind. I just don’t understand that some people don’t really care for your feelings and even you are serious about it, they would still make fun of it. But I am thankful that when my life is at doom, I can still manage to be optimistic and help myself to get out of it. And I know this is because of my faith.
Dec 10, 201010:50 am
The truth really is ugly. This blog actually narrates some of the setback of the online media hype as well as having emotional problems, or should I say emotional disorders? Yes, there are people out there who cannot be contented of having those things online (i.e. numerous friends on FB,etc.), I mean there can never be a time to suffice a person’s quenched for things. Thus, they result to suicide. Then again, you have a point that this virtual age has brought so many changes especially in terms with relationships. But, on the other side of it, there are also those who have grasped these virtual changes and maintained intact and more compact relationship. I think it’s a matter of support on both sides.
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Jan 14, 201111:55 am
Blogging has become really helpful these days. However, the downside of this trend is mentioned on this blog–the emotional effects of it. Indeed, there are people who tend to lean on their sites as a gateway for their suppressed feelings. Thus, some would result to suicide. I think the best thing to cure this is a more tighter bond to our family circle. This way, as technology makes way to gapped that closeness, we can fight it with a more close-knit relationship.
Feb 3, 20112:14 pm
For how many years already, we have been bombarded with idea that social media could save people from different emotional attacks. However, if we try to look and observe around us, this social media is not a good thing all the time. It too has its own flaws. In my case, I have been relying to it for how many years, I have even tried blogging just for me to have an outlet when I feel bad. But what did I get? Nothing actually. I think talking to someone, just like friends or family members is a better way to overcome whatever it is that we feel. At least, we would be able to hear or to feel first hand help. Likewise, we get a different kind of feeling when we receive help and concerned from people we love and who love us.
Feb 11, 20112:32 pm
it is February and the most dreadful part of the year for me, perhaps… and I know what you mean when you talk about this loneliness… I work with websites so I spent most of my working hours at the laptop with skype and so on for communication. after work I go straight home. yes, again to the same laptop. because it is dark and freezing outside and I am depressed by this… and I do have friends, really… but recently it is more and more about life from internet to internet… than life with real people. I know this is about me and my choices… but sometimes, some jobs… they force you into such a living…
Feb 18, 20117:21 am
You are right on target with this! I’ve thought and noticed these same things myself many times. People get so caught up in this virtual UNreality that they forget people need each other. It’s really sad, and sadly true. One of the other commenters said faith is all that helps you through these times. I agree. If I didn’t have my faith, I don’t know where I’d be.
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May 9, 20113:36 am
your words are really deep
Jul 6, 20114:49 am
I think if you are more happy in life and not feeling lonely, you will use these site less. so maybe it’s not the sites fault but rather not a good avenue to share your true feeling with those you care about. Side note* Do you think we would be just as disconnected if these sites had video chat?
Aug 4, 201112:02 am
Very nice and informative post there. I agree that loneliness causes frustration and best way to reduce rather remove frustration is participate in online/offline community. Share your views and feelings. Thank you for providing a good resource for sharing views.
Aug 20, 201112:04 pm
To me, one’s alleged Facebook “friends” aren’t officially friends unless/until they help one move or get to the airport…
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Aug 30, 20112:00 am
your words are really deep. i like your thoughts you are absolutely true
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Jay is an optimist by heart and a realist given the lonely world he lives in. He is a media professional and loves internet and social media in particular: 'No wonder'. Blogging has been a part of his life since 2006 but he never took it seriously. He writes... and just writes and see life as a purple experience!
1:29 pm
Bitter but rather true fact.
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