Love, Relationships and Social Media

Love, Relationships and Social Media

In my recently completed research work on “Social Media” (to be submitted to Bharatiya Vidya Bhavan, New Delhi), various astonishing facts came before me. I want to share one such phenomenon. It was, in parts, published in the New York Times and you might have came across the same… Here it is…

How many of you actually have ‘break-ed up’ till now and how many times? Well, this is no any funny question that I am throwing it out for you. I am sorry for that. The complexities involved and combined together with the emotional bindings – rather lack of it – make this break-up procedure quite a tough bar to pass through. The hammer falls on all nearby the relationship and the shining ‘bloody’ axe on the two ‘once’ un-dividable souls.

Researching on the topic of Social Media, I came to know that it acts as a ‘stage’ and we the network users are nothing but ‘players’. Our basic nature is to be social – to interact and communicate our ideas, feelings and emotions. Social Media enables us to just the same and rather it helps us to enhance this social nature of us. It acts as a platform to interact and thereby to communicate our thoughts.

I won’t go much of in details about Social Media here as I am going to pour down something about the same in a separate post. So relationships…!

Can anyone tell me is it easy enough to leave back a relationship and move on? And in a culture like that of India, how tough is that? Is it really that tough?

In an article called “Breaking up in a Digital Fishbowl”, The New York Times reports how these days of shared email passwords, Facebook, Twitter, Orkut and various other social media platforms are making it nearly impossible to leave behind your ex and truly disconnect. In a different study published in The Sun, it has been found that one out of four people are using social networking sites like Facebook and Orkut to search a childhood sweetheart. Thirty seven per cent said they wanted to learn about their ex to just “see what they were doing these days”.

Well, thats something that you know it yourself from the very core of your heart. Seperation is the best tonic that acts as the necessary antibiotic for two – once – lovers to enter a new life. But these social networking sites are engulping the world day-by-day, just like the Titanic sank! It becomes more complicated when you two share many “friends” in common. The complexions and the inability to ‘stay seperated’ because of this online media is making life too tough to handle.

But, but but… I am not going to give any solution to that… rather I cannot suggest anything at this juncture! This is something that is out of control – I believe so! I can only say that better be off than hurting each other at the end of the day. If the relationship cannot be medicined out then lets both try to forget the past like the way a piece of soap slowly dissolves in water…

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Posted by JD @ 25 January 2010 5 comments

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Feb 26, 2010
2:14 pm

#1 Nalini Hebbar :

nice post ..well written
running away from a relationship solves nothing…setting limits and avoiding stepping on toes is what it needs
people who go from one relationship to another are just learning what mistakes not make…they are just extra careful-but that too may not work!
Its easier to make adjustments (unless ofcoz it's an abusive relationship)…There is never a perfect match

Feb 26, 2010
3:11 pm

#2 Jayanta Deka :

@ Nalini
Thanks nalini for the comment.
Really running away from anything solves nothing!
Love is very complicated and we are making it more so…
Thanks again..
Cheers..
JD

Mar 18, 2010
1:52 pm

#3 Anamika :

It may not be easy to leave a relationship and move on if you have been in a bitter or bad relationship but not very difficult either. If you adhere to the Feng Shui principles and remove all past relationship clutter from your life you can not only put the old relationship behind you but also attract a new and better partner to your life.

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Apr 22, 2010
1:51 pm

#4 Jayanta Deka :

@Anamika: Maybe that will help. But after all it depends on the mind set and the mental toughness. Its very difficult if the reason is not just lack of LOVE but some family problem or just concerning career.